Reasons for Maintaining My Facebook Account

Much has been said about why some people are turning away from Facebook and how the site seems to be ruining our lives. Experts have also delved into the effect of “comparing our real lives with others’ advertisements of themselves” on our self-esteem.

The article “Online You vs. Real You: What’s the Difference?”  mentioned the concept of Facebook envy, which is brought about by people’s tendency to paint a perfect or happy picture of themselves online.  I think what accounts for this is not simply the desire to conceal one’s flaws and sad experiences.  Part of it is our want to immortalize primarily the happy aspects of our lives. We know that our posts may still be there on the web long after we’re gone. So it is but natural to highlight the positive, and keep the negative ones private by personally discussing it with only our closest friends (if needed). We show our strong persona to the world and keep the vulnerable side in the dark. Who wouldn’t do that for self-preservation?

Having said that, I would prefer to think about Facebook as an extension of our personality rather than a method of faking it. All of us are assuming online identities. And while some say that Facebook cannot replace real, personal interaction, there may be people who are more real and are able to better express themselves online than in person. I used to be a fan of conversations via landline (thanks for 3-way calling too) but it just became easier to connect with many people simultaneously through the newer technology.

Here are reasons for maintaining my personal account:

1. Having instant conversation starters for personal meet-ups, as you don't have to do kamustahan from scratch! You are already updated through the feed.

2. Getting an inspiring idea or two from fashionista friends by checking out their random photos, experiences, and recommended products. It always helps to surround yourself with beautiful things, and it brightens my day to see these happy people’s uploads

3. I am loving the randomness of information that I gain access to when visiting the home page.

4. We are able to easily share anything with MORE people. I also find it nice when people whom you haven’t heard from for a long while would try to get in touch by commenting or sending a PM. What more if they tag you on a childhood picture that brings back sweet memories of your togetherness?

5. Finding friends whom you couldn’t have reunited with, without a social networking site like Facebook.

6. I also find it interesting to discover mutual friendships online.

7. For someone who's poor when it comes to dates, Facebook alerts help me greet people on their special days.

As long as we moderately engage with our social media and take responsibility for everything we post (consciously thinking about them), there shouldn’t be an issue. You can modify your settings to block certain posts too. For some, it’s all about games or doing business. Or wanting to meet men and women. To each his own. I’ve smoothly let go of my Multiply and Friendster accounts before and who knows? Something else might take Facebook’s place. But for now I’m holding on.